You wake up early, do your morning routine, and then go to work. You spend hours at the office while waiting on others to produce reports. You crank out projects. And, let’s not forget the meetings you sit through. You leave the office 12 to 14 hours later only to miss family activities and dinner. By the time you get home, you are exhausted, frustrated, and completely drained. Working out? Hobbies? Social life? Church or faith activities? Forget it. You have nothing left to give, because you gave it all at the office.
Can you relate this scenario? If so, chances are your life is not in balance. Work is outweighing all other areas of your life. Your life balance is out-of-whack! As a result, you are stressed and unhappy. There is a solution. Complete a Life Balance Assessment, explore how you can achieve balance, set your boundaries and start implementing change. First, let’s define work-life balance.
What is Work-Life Balance?
The Cambridge Dictionary defines work-life balance as “the amount of time you spend doing your job compared with the amount of time you spend with your family and doing things you enjoy. “ If your life is balanced, you are proportionately giving necessary time to various areas of your life such as family, career/work, health/fitness, faith/spiritual, social/friendships, personal growth, finances, and your living environment.
What happens if your life is not balanced?
Look at your life as a car tire divided into eight sections. If one of those sections is heavier than another, or the tread is wearing out, you may have a blowout. Regardless, you will not have a smooth ride. On the other hand, if each one of those sections is running properly and proportionately, that tire is going to ride smoother and more efficiently.
If you are spending all your time at work and not finding time to work out, you will start to gain weight and your health may be effected. If you are not finding time for your faith, you may begin to lose hope or have a difficult time finding joy. And, if you are unable to be a part of your kids’ activities, you will start to see an impact on their lives.
How do you find balance again?
Awareness is key in achieving life balance. The first step to finding your balance is ranking areas of your life and discover where you need to focus. You can download the assessment here. This tool will help you discover what area of your life is taking over and where you need to reallocate time.
Once you are aware of those areas, ask yourself the following questions:
What would my life look like if I spent more time on __________ (your lower ranking area(s))
What would my life look like if I spent less time on ___________ (your highest ranking area(s))
What do I need to do in order to make changes?
What will happen if I don’t make any changes?
Based upon your evaluation, determine if you want to move forward. If you do want a more balance life, then set goals with deadlines. Begin implementing a plan to have a more positive and balanced life.
Here is an example:
You realize you spend 60+ hours per week working and your health is suffering.
- Set aside time for the appropriate doctor’s appointments to get you on track (Assign a date to make the appointment. Add the appointment to your calendar.)
- Plan five hours a week to take a walk, work out, or play a sport. (Make appointments on your calendar)
- Delegate assignments, set healthy boundaries at work, or just say no to certain tasks. (list your tasks/work and deadlines)
- Consider resources, such as hiring a Life Coach to help you gain more balance.
You work 60+ hours and your travel is 90%. You never see your family and miss your kids’ activities.
- Really look at your job requirements. Where can you delegate? Where can you set boundaries? Can you save time (while saving the company money) by doing any work virtually vs traveling? (Set an exploration deadline and a meeting with management appointment.)
- Set aside time each week for your family. Make the time an appointment on your calendar.
- Evaluate if it is time to look for a new job. If so, set a deadline as to when you will leave. Come up with a financial plan and a job search plan.
- Consider resources, such as hiring a Career Coach to help you through the process of finding a job.
Imagine what your life will be like if you start implementing change. You will be amazed how taking positive action will give you hope. You will begin to feel joy once again.
What questions do you have about achieving life balance? How can I help you find balance? Feel free to write your comments below.